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TOPIC:"The Speaker"
The Speaker is the most important aspect of public speaking.Not so much as to the fact that everybody is waiting to hear what they have to say (the message) but how they say it.
This brings us to the 2 aspects of the speaker.
(1) The non-verbal
(2) The verbal
Non-verbal communication accounts for 70% of a speakers presentation.The audience judges the speaker right before they mount the podium.And that's why we will be speaking on
the subtitle: "How to win the audience without saying a word"
You as a Speaker must be AWARE of this subtle assessment by the audience.They might not show it, but believe it, they are watching and taking notes. So the first thing a Speaker must do is, *LOOK THE PART.*
This does not only give you confidence but also give the audience confidence that the speaker can and will deliver. You don't expect your pastor to be preaching prosperity when he doesn't look prosperous.So you must dress for the occassion.Not anything too fancy that it becomes a distraction to your audience. And for the ladies, showing some skin.
You should dress smart and decent
That will tell your audience that you take them seriously.
Secondly, This means you should not hide behind someone Or behind any object Or fold your arms across your chest Or sit on your hands For people who do that Or play with objects or your face, fingers etc
It tells your audience one thing. "NO CONFIDENCE".
So, you have to be calm, and if you can't, you have to learn it.After you have been introduced, walk graciously to the podium
I know a lot of folks have issues when it gets to this part, It's like walking to the abyss.A bit of consolation, every speaker gets nervous at that point.
Even Tony Robbins gets nervous
That's why he runs on stage.
So how to tackle this problem is to be prepared for it.
Make sure you visit the venue a day or two before the event,and practice getting on the podium, So it doesn't look foreign.This will familiarise you with the environment.
Thirdly, *SILENT*
When you get to the lectern, for the love of God, don't start immediately." Please observe a minute silence", I didn't mean that literally
A moment of silence will suffice.
What silence does is that it reaffirms who is in control.
Look at the audience;Look at them the way you look at your mother, father, brother, sister, girl and boy friend.Look at them like family.
Enjoy their presence, after all they paid money to come see you talk
And do that with a *SMILE*
Thats the fourth. All these are happening in a matter of seconds.
The most important thing is control.Be in control.Smile is a great asset for a speaker, I am not suggesting you begin to grin helplessly. They will get you off the stage before you say your first word.Just a simple and warm smile,to let them know you are happy to be with them. This my friends, is 60% of the job done,10% is for how you gesture when you have begun to utter half a dozen words.
And this brings me to my fifth point.
Show your audience your *PALM*When gesticulating
What this does is, it tells the audience you have nothing to hide.As weird as that may sound, it's true.Hope you don't get this the wrong way, I don't mean "shegey" o.
Then finally, make good *EYE CONTACT.This is were most people find it challenging
You will have to learn how to look at people
So you see your audience will fall in love with you even before you utter a word if you do these things
Maintaining good eye contact tells the audience that one, your are confident and two, you are credible.
Like I said, you can learn to look at the audience,I will like to make one more point here.
To show your audience your palm means not to hold your hands behind you, or put your hands on the lectern, or fold your arms across your chest, or even put your Hands in your pocket albeit ideal for special occassions.
Ladies and gentlemen, that's the non-verbal speaker you love immediately.
So a quick wrap up of non-verbal (signal behaviour) communication for speakers
1.You should look the part. Dress smart.
2.You must be open. Don't hide out yourself.
3. Don't rush into your presentation. Use some silence.
4.let your audience see your hands. Don't hid them.
5. Maintain good eye-contact.
taught by Mr moses ONAUDHE
CONTRIBUTIONS FROM THE GROUP
SEUN:not all ur audience will buy your show of control, some are there just to spite u, all u need do is remain calm.
ELVIS AJAH:Anybody can become a powerful public speaker whether endowed with it or not. This can possibly be accomplished through constant practice and interest.
For instance, notable orators the likes of Cicero,Aristotle, Martin Luther King Jr, Adolf Hitler, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, Nnamdi Azikiwe,Franklin Roosevelt, Obafemi Awolow,Margaret Thatcher,and numerous others became great public speakers through constant practice despite the fact that some were gifted orators.
This presupposes that public speaking isn't restricted to popular preachers,civil activists, lawyers, Statesmen & politicians. In short, that certain individuals have the innate ability to stand in front of an audience with no anxiety and give a moving & dynamic speech is not disputable. But Steve Mandrel ( 1987) has rightly pointed out that the people we consider great speakers usually have spent years developing & practising their skills.
Some people always overcome mediocrity by using the basics of organization, preparation, & delivery of speeches to deal decisively with anxiety. As confirmed by these immortal words of Ralph Waldo Emerson: "All great speakers were bad speakers at first." Meaning they perfected themselves via determination to become experts.
Personally I , Elvis, used to be very shy to speak in public in those days, but I courageously broke the barrier by asking questions in the classroom often as well as contribute to discussions. In fact,to me,back then, it didn't matter whether I was grammatically correct or not while making such attempts as all I needed was to have my voice heard-- thereby building my public speaking ability. And before I know what was happening, I became so vocal that I was now often selected to represent my school in quiz competitions & debates on regular bases. My advice-- always be inquisitive to contribute to whatever discussion that is on, and before yu know it,yu will graduate into public speaking celebrity. I assure you of this because the same strategy has worked for me so much that by God's grace, there is no category of audience I cannot address today, confidently and stylishly. Let's try out this sample :
"Ladies and gentlemen, the first words I like to say at this hour are those of immense gratitude to you all for deeming it necessary to elect me as the president of FAmePROJECT . I do understand that this is a reputable organization and I see it as a great privilege and honour to be its president.
In the face of keen competition that engulfed the election, it is so amazing that you gave me your confidence and mandate to be your leader. And I like to pledge that this expression of confidence shall not be betrayed. I want to also submit that the fact that other well meaning contestants didn't emerge does not suggest that I am superior to them.
They also have great dreams for this organization as accordingly expressed by them except that it is a game of one at a time. So, I sincerely beckon on them in conjunction with their various supporters to join me as brothers to lift this great organization to the next level by ignoring the dust of conflict that the election must have generated.
Tonight, I feel humbled by the performance of my outgoing predecessor. To this end, join me to pay him tributes for his enormous achievements which our eyes have all seen. Ordinarily, his shoes look too bogus for me to step into but in spite of my possible limitations, I'm radically determined to carry forward the banner of this organization as never before.
I'm very much aware that the task ahead is difficult. But all the promises I made during my campaign shall be translated into reality in no distant time. Ladies and gentlemen, we must not forget that this can only be achieved through your maximum cooperation which I earnestly seek for this moment. For together we shall succeed. As a servant leader who I have always wished to be,my administration is open to constructive suggestions and criticisms. This will definitely enable me to brace up to your expectation. In other words, I shall remain humble enough to make corrections whenever my attention is drawn to any perceived miscalculations.
Once again, I like to thank everyone of you for the cooperation I have started enjoying from you and the anticipated one. Thank you for your kind attention and God bless. Long live our great organization-- FAmePROJECT! Long live Nigeria!!"
TOPIC:
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The Speaker is the most important aspect of public speaking.Not so much as to the fact that everybody is waiting to hear what they have to say (the message) but how they say it.
This brings us to the 2 aspects of the speaker.
(1) The non-verbal
(2) The verbal
Non-verbal communication accounts for 70% of a speakers presentation.The audience judges the speaker right before they mount the podium.And that's why we will be speaking on
the subtitle: "How to win the audience without saying a word"
You as a Speaker must be AWARE of this subtle assessment by the audience.They might not show it, but believe it, they are watching and taking notes. So the first thing a Speaker must do is, *LOOK THE PART.*
This does not only give you confidence but also give the audience confidence that the speaker can and will deliver. You don't expect your pastor to be preaching prosperity when he doesn't look prosperous.So you must dress for the occassion.Not anything too fancy that it becomes a distraction to your audience. And for the ladies, showing some skin.
You should dress smart and decent
That will tell your audience that you take them seriously.
Secondly, This means you should not hide behind someone Or behind any object Or fold your arms across your chest Or sit on your hands For people who do that Or play with objects or your face, fingers etc
It tells your audience one thing. "NO CONFIDENCE".
So, you have to be calm, and if you can't, you have to learn it.After you have been introduced, walk graciously to the podium
I know a lot of folks have issues when it gets to this part, It's like walking to the abyss.A bit of consolation, every speaker gets nervous at that point.
Even Tony Robbins gets nervous
That's why he runs on stage.
So how to tackle this problem is to be prepared for it.
Make sure you visit the venue a day or two before the event,and practice getting on the podium, So it doesn't look foreign.This will familiarise you with the environment.
Thirdly, *SILENT*
When you get to the lectern, for the love of God, don't start immediately." Please observe a minute silence", I didn't mean that literally
A moment of silence will suffice.
What silence does is that it reaffirms who is in control.
Look at the audience;Look at them the way you look at your mother, father, brother, sister, girl and boy friend.Look at them like family.
Enjoy their presence, after all they paid money to come see you talk
And do that with a *SMILE*
Thats the fourth. All these are happening in a matter of seconds.
The most important thing is control.Be in control.Smile is a great asset for a speaker, I am not suggesting you begin to grin helplessly. They will get you off the stage before you say your first word.Just a simple and warm smile,to let them know you are happy to be with them. This my friends, is 60% of the job done,10% is for how you gesture when you have begun to utter half a dozen words.
And this brings me to my fifth point.
Show your audience your *PALM*When gesticulating
What this does is, it tells the audience you have nothing to hide.As weird as that may sound, it's true.Hope you don't get this the wrong way, I don't mean "shegey" o.
Then finally, make good *EYE CONTACT.This is were most people find it challenging
You will have to learn how to look at people
So you see your audience will fall in love with you even before you utter a word if you do these things
Maintaining good eye contact tells the audience that one, your are confident and two, you are credible.
Like I said, you can learn to look at the audience,I will like to make one more point here.
To show your audience your palm means not to hold your hands behind you, or put your hands on the lectern, or fold your arms across your chest, or even put your Hands in your pocket albeit ideal for special occassions.
Ladies and gentlemen, that's the non-verbal speaker you love immediately.
So a quick wrap up of non-verbal (signal behaviour) communication for speakers
1.You should look the part. Dress smart.
2.You must be open. Don't hide out yourself.
3. Don't rush into your presentation. Use some silence.
4.let your audience see your hands. Don't hid them.
5. Maintain good eye-contact.
taught by Mr moses ONAUDHE
CONTRIBUTIONS FROM THE GROUP
SEUN:not all ur audience will buy your show of control, some are there just to spite u, all u need do is remain calm.
ELVIS AJAH:Anybody can become a powerful public speaker whether endowed with it or not. This can possibly be accomplished through constant practice and interest.
For instance, notable orators the likes of Cicero,Aristotle, Martin Luther King Jr, Adolf Hitler, Abraham Lincoln, Winston Churchill, Nnamdi Azikiwe,Franklin Roosevelt, Obafemi Awolow,Margaret Thatcher,and numerous others became great public speakers through constant practice despite the fact that some were gifted orators.
This presupposes that public speaking isn't restricted to popular preachers,civil activists, lawyers, Statesmen & politicians. In short, that certain individuals have the innate ability to stand in front of an audience with no anxiety and give a moving & dynamic speech is not disputable. But Steve Mandrel ( 1987) has rightly pointed out that the people we consider great speakers usually have spent years developing & practising their skills.
Some people always overcome mediocrity by using the basics of organization, preparation, & delivery of speeches to deal decisively with anxiety. As confirmed by these immortal words of Ralph Waldo Emerson: "All great speakers were bad speakers at first." Meaning they perfected themselves via determination to become experts.
Personally I , Elvis, used to be very shy to speak in public in those days, but I courageously broke the barrier by asking questions in the classroom often as well as contribute to discussions. In fact,to me,back then, it didn't matter whether I was grammatically correct or not while making such attempts as all I needed was to have my voice heard-- thereby building my public speaking ability. And before I know what was happening, I became so vocal that I was now often selected to represent my school in quiz competitions & debates on regular bases. My advice-- always be inquisitive to contribute to whatever discussion that is on, and before yu know it,yu will graduate into public speaking celebrity. I assure you of this because the same strategy has worked for me so much that by God's grace, there is no category of audience I cannot address today, confidently and stylishly. Let's try out this sample :
"Ladies and gentlemen, the first words I like to say at this hour are those of immense gratitude to you all for deeming it necessary to elect me as the president of FAmePROJECT . I do understand that this is a reputable organization and I see it as a great privilege and honour to be its president.
In the face of keen competition that engulfed the election, it is so amazing that you gave me your confidence and mandate to be your leader. And I like to pledge that this expression of confidence shall not be betrayed. I want to also submit that the fact that other well meaning contestants didn't emerge does not suggest that I am superior to them.
They also have great dreams for this organization as accordingly expressed by them except that it is a game of one at a time. So, I sincerely beckon on them in conjunction with their various supporters to join me as brothers to lift this great organization to the next level by ignoring the dust of conflict that the election must have generated.
Tonight, I feel humbled by the performance of my outgoing predecessor. To this end, join me to pay him tributes for his enormous achievements which our eyes have all seen. Ordinarily, his shoes look too bogus for me to step into but in spite of my possible limitations, I'm radically determined to carry forward the banner of this organization as never before.
I'm very much aware that the task ahead is difficult. But all the promises I made during my campaign shall be translated into reality in no distant time. Ladies and gentlemen, we must not forget that this can only be achieved through your maximum cooperation which I earnestly seek for this moment. For together we shall succeed. As a servant leader who I have always wished to be,my administration is open to constructive suggestions and criticisms. This will definitely enable me to brace up to your expectation. In other words, I shall remain humble enough to make corrections whenever my attention is drawn to any perceived miscalculations.
Once again, I like to thank everyone of you for the cooperation I have started enjoying from you and the anticipated one. Thank you for your kind attention and God bless. Long live our great organization-- FAmePROJECT! Long live Nigeria!!"
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TOPIC:* building Trust*
with a scriptural backing taken from the book of 1corthians 4:2 " -Now it is required that those who have been given trust must prove faithful" NIV.
*WHAT IS TRUST?*
# trust is the assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.
# #Trust is the foundation stone of every healthy family relationship including, family, our work, our ministry or our friendship and even God.
Believe it or not, true leadership is ultimately based on *trust* and it is a biblical requirement that leaders must be trustworthy....
So this question now comes in, *As a leader am I trustworthy?*
As we pursue relational leadership, we must pay close attention to living a consistent trustworthy personal and organizational life. Dave Adams(international institute of communication Excellence) listed *"trust"* as a *bridge* to communication credibility and "distrust" (which is the opposite of trust) as a *barrier* to communication.
*EIGHT CONCEPTS RELATED TO TRUST*
1.In building trust, words and behaviour must come from character. It is character - not merely what we say or do - that build *trust.* our primary focus here is on words, behaviour and attitudes, but these must come from a sincere heart and godly character other wise they are meaningless...
2. Trust is slowly built and quickly broken/destroyed. building trust takes time, often a long time. We must be consistent in our trustworthiness.So true! You could take decades to build trust and a split second to break it.
3. Trust is even more slowly built if ever... Once trust is betrayed, it usually takes a very long time for a person to trust again, at least in the area where it is broken.
*Jesus forgave those who crucified him but it doesn't mean he trusted them!*(I hope I'm correct?) .
4. Trust is delicate, fragile gem, other's trust in us is fragile and must be kept with constant, deliberate care.forgiving and trusting are not the same.
Forgiveness does not have to be earned but trust does... Hmm.
5. Generational issues are important in trust..
The current generation view trust differently from each other.
6. The decline of trust affects organizations dramatically, mistrust of people and institutions in general is readily transfers to organizations and their leaders.
7. Trust is determined by culture. *Trust busters and Trust builders* are different in each culture. What builds or destroys trust in our culture will be the same in our relationships across cultures...
8. We must be consistent in our trust worthiness in every area of our lives in order for others to truly trust us.
*BUILDING PERSONAL TRUST*
# personal trust is the foundation of all kinds of trust. We must be trustworthy as people in order to be trusted as parents, leaders and representatives of our organizations to those of other cultures.
#Two issues necessary for building personal trust are avoiding "trust busters" and engaging in "trust builders"
*WHAT IS PERSONAL TRUST BUILDERS*?
there are actions, words and attitudes that build other people's trust in us. In many cases they are proactive, where we deliberately engage in them for the purpose of building trust. Obviously they must come from a sincere heart and not from an attempt to manipulate people into trusting us..
*BUILDING ORGANIZATIONAL TRUST*
#Our organization's Trustworthiness is truly very significant.As with personal trust, organizational trust is a delicate fragile gem, and can be so easily damaged.
# it is also an increasing issue for personnel within the organizations. In order for an organization to function effectively, its personnel must be able to trust it!
*POLICIES PROCEDURES AND PRACTICES*
#these are three key issues in organizational trust.
# sometimes there is lack of carefully considered, written policies and procedures.
# When practices (what leaders actually do) don't line up with established policies and procedures, trust is endangered. Then personnel can't count on being treated consistently and fairly....
#taught by AGBAJE TOBORE CHRISTABEL (aka JBDFG).
building Trust*
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