DON'T WASTE YOUR PAIN

Pain is simply a mental or emotional suffering. It can also be something or someone that makes us feel angry or annoyed.

We all go through disappointments, set backs and loss. In as much as we don't pray for pain, it is a part of life but how we come out of it will determine our progress in life. It also determines the height of our achievements in life.
Most times, we worry because  we cannot see the big puzzle of our life because they are not in place yet, it will only fit when everything comes together.
Therefore we get troubled for what we are not sure of. Even in the pain you have to trust that the design of your life will work out for your good.
In those tough times its easy to let your pain overwhelm you, but if you are overwhelmed by your pain, you are wasting it. Your pains can be maximised to produce a great result.

I will tell us a story before we proceed.

One of my mentors who Founded an NGO in Lagos named "Safermom" her name is Jaiyeoba.  Jaiyeoba had a very close friend who was pregnant.
Jaiyeoba's pregnant friend visited the clinic as it was her EDD, meaning Expected Delivery Date, only to realise that the big hospital lacked some facilities that will make her friend’s delivery a success. They were all trying to see to the challenge at hand as it was getting beyond their care.
Finally, Jaiyeoba's friend died because of lack of facilities and available kit for pregnant women. Jaiyeoba was very angry. She couldn't imagine the degree of carelessness of the hospital and insensitivity of the nurses.
So in that pain of mourning her friend she ended her law career and Started an NGO known as "Safermom" but provides "Mother kit".

Her kit as the name implies makes available all the things a mother need in the hospital for a successful delivery and safe mom.
So that's a pain that has brought about the safety of thousands of women in Lagos. She is now an Associate fellow of the Mandela Washington Fellowship and Young African Leaders initiative.

Turn your pain to become a force for good. Healing comes when you get your mind off your pain and go help others, else you miss out of its purpose.
There are many people out there that should benefit from your pain. Don't hide your pain or allow anger blind you from seeing the lesson in the pain
Today, Safermom's Motherskit has helped a lot of moms. The NGO has saved lives.

Many people because of their fear of pains are afraid of making mistakes. But I must say that, in as much as we don't encourage failure, you need those mistakes to gain Mastery of your niche and craft.
Those experiences form Your Own Picture and make you. Don't wish to be another person.

I will share with us 7 ways of maximising Pain. But before I do, remember how Albert Einstein became a success story today.
People almost never bother to check the many failures that brought him to become an Authority.
Albert Einstein should have encountered several discouragements from friends and family but he had his mind on the goal. That's a strong persistence through the pain. And finally he can never be forgotten

The 7 Steps Pain Maximization Strategy
1.Learn the lesson
2.Discover the purpose of the pain.
3.Gain new confidence.
4.Develope Character
5.Grow through it.
6.Never repeat same mistake
7.Never stay depressed for long

Learn the Lesson:
There is a lesson to learn from every pain or even mistake, if you keep a negative mind-set you will never see it and won't learn anything.

Discover the purpose:
Know the assignment of the pain.
The purpose of Jaiyeoba's Pain was to Help other women.

Gain new confidence:
Trust yourself. You can succeed, you are not a failure.
You need those confidence to forge ahead.

Developed your Character:
Don't put up negative attitudes and thwart the purpose of the pain.

Grow through it, don't go through it:
If you go through it, you will make same mistake again but instead Grow and learn

Never repeat same mistake:
Many times we learn from our mistakes only to inspire others and never apply wisdom. Do all you can from your end to avoid the same mistake

And finally,  Never stay depressed for long:
There are some pains or losses that come and we really cannot avoid depression but don't stay in it for too long else you pause your life.

In Conclusion, Pain will eventually pass, but what you do in(with)pain will determine how you come out of it.

Different people come out differently from pains.
You either come out:
Blaming God
Defeated
Stronger with a bigger confidence.
Or, giving up on your goals and Vision

But as Children of God, we are enjoined to "Put on the whole armour of God that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil .Ephesians 6:11
Verse 13 Says "That Ye may be able to WITHSTAND in the evil day( in our tonight context those pains) and having done all STAND (in our tonight’s context, grow through it and become a success at last) .
Thank you all so much


Taught by My name is Homa Phebe Jameson. You can call me Homa